Seeing a friend on a self-destruct path is never a good thing even though you don't know that person too well. What hurts more is to see someone close to you be so tormented over it.
Personally, hate is a very strong word to use. I really harbour no ill-intentions for people. If I don't like them, I just keep my distance.
Life is already twisted enough w/o people trying to play God.. people get hurt, upset, heartbroken even on a day to day basis. But.. why put people thru more than what's necessary?
I've learnt that good things in life just take time. Some longer than others. But all in good time..
Even if you don't know that person well, is it necessary to mess up a person's life more than it already is? I don't think so.
Even the healing process takes time.
sigh. i wonder why people do it..
November 25, 2009
November 17, 2009
The 20s crisis
I don't know about the majority. But quite a healthy number of people i know off suffer from this.
some get it better than others. the rest, well, tough luck i guess.
It's the time in life where we realise that life isn't as simple as it was made out to be or as it was made known to us.
All along, we've been hearing people tell us. Study hard. Get a good degree. Get a good job. But. Is it really enough? There are so many circumstances in this world that show us otherwise. We do everything we're told since we were kids... or almost everything. Our parents protect us. Teach us what's right and what wrong morally. They show us what to look out for in the world and tell us what the look out for in the future. (well.. some don't..) anyway, the question. is what they're doing really enough? is it even right to begin with.
It's SO unbelievably true that people learn best from experience. However, when parents do the above mentioned, what do the children benefit? and for the children. or if we're talking about the 20s crisis, then the young adult, what good is studying til you achieve the best piece of paper there is to get out there, but while studying, you neglect (usually by force) the part about gaining experience. getting down to the point, no one would agree to employ you if you only have theory but no work experience to back you up. so coming full circle, is a piece of paper really that important?
ok. so let's say you've got that ridiculous piece of paper.. you managed to get a job as a trainee in this market. with the economy in it's current state, plus people who don't trust others easily, bosses are trying to get the best out of what they're paying, employees don't quit even if they feel like shit coz of the fear that they won't land another job. what are the chances you'll actually get to learn stuff, get promoted and get the hard-earned pay increment without driving yourself six feet underground??
then there's always the case of others who are just like you. fighting for the exact things you're fighting for. what makes you more competent? what makes you stand out? what makes you succeed faster than the rest? even with the ideas and the know-how proven that you can do it, without experience, you're basically still a nobody.
then there's always the case of one still being young. people think you're as immature as you were when they saw you perhaps more than 10 years ago?! that doesn't help in getting things done either.
with the horribly underpaid salary, how is one expected to save for his/her own future. let's just assume a 1.8k paying job. $300 would probably go to travel expenses. $500 to food. $200 to bills. $400 to the parentals perhaps?! leaving you only $400 left for misc stuff. talk about a future of settling down... you probably gotta first start thinking of a way to get through the month... what if you start off with something less than 1.8.. what if there are other things that require your attention? medical bills perhaps? insurance?
in my opinion, you need money to generate more money. but with no money to begin with, how do you start generating some money for more money?
you end up where you are. not knowing how to get out of what you're in. not knowing what possible move you can next make. not knowing what will become of your future.
to be really negative, one could end up thinking that he/she would be better off alone. but.. we just weren't created for a world of isolation..
the thing about the world is that no one gives a shit about whether you're doing it for your own selfish reasons or whether you're doing it for more worthy causes.
it's sad. really. it is.
.:inspired by ben & shir's life of late:.
some get it better than others. the rest, well, tough luck i guess.
It's the time in life where we realise that life isn't as simple as it was made out to be or as it was made known to us.
All along, we've been hearing people tell us. Study hard. Get a good degree. Get a good job. But. Is it really enough? There are so many circumstances in this world that show us otherwise. We do everything we're told since we were kids... or almost everything. Our parents protect us. Teach us what's right and what wrong morally. They show us what to look out for in the world and tell us what the look out for in the future. (well.. some don't..) anyway, the question. is what they're doing really enough? is it even right to begin with.
It's SO unbelievably true that people learn best from experience. However, when parents do the above mentioned, what do the children benefit? and for the children. or if we're talking about the 20s crisis, then the young adult, what good is studying til you achieve the best piece of paper there is to get out there, but while studying, you neglect (usually by force) the part about gaining experience. getting down to the point, no one would agree to employ you if you only have theory but no work experience to back you up. so coming full circle, is a piece of paper really that important?
ok. so let's say you've got that ridiculous piece of paper.. you managed to get a job as a trainee in this market. with the economy in it's current state, plus people who don't trust others easily, bosses are trying to get the best out of what they're paying, employees don't quit even if they feel like shit coz of the fear that they won't land another job. what are the chances you'll actually get to learn stuff, get promoted and get the hard-earned pay increment without driving yourself six feet underground??
then there's always the case of others who are just like you. fighting for the exact things you're fighting for. what makes you more competent? what makes you stand out? what makes you succeed faster than the rest? even with the ideas and the know-how proven that you can do it, without experience, you're basically still a nobody.
then there's always the case of one still being young. people think you're as immature as you were when they saw you perhaps more than 10 years ago?! that doesn't help in getting things done either.
with the horribly underpaid salary, how is one expected to save for his/her own future. let's just assume a 1.8k paying job. $300 would probably go to travel expenses. $500 to food. $200 to bills. $400 to the parentals perhaps?! leaving you only $400 left for misc stuff. talk about a future of settling down... you probably gotta first start thinking of a way to get through the month... what if you start off with something less than 1.8.. what if there are other things that require your attention? medical bills perhaps? insurance?
in my opinion, you need money to generate more money. but with no money to begin with, how do you start generating some money for more money?
you end up where you are. not knowing how to get out of what you're in. not knowing what possible move you can next make. not knowing what will become of your future.
to be really negative, one could end up thinking that he/she would be better off alone. but.. we just weren't created for a world of isolation..
the thing about the world is that no one gives a shit about whether you're doing it for your own selfish reasons or whether you're doing it for more worthy causes.
it's sad. really. it is.
.:inspired by ben & shir's life of late:.
November 04, 2009
lost
i'm sitting here right now suddenly feeling lost. i don't know what's in store for the future. i don't know if what i'm doing is or what i will be doing constructive for my future. i don't know if it would end up more a disaster either.
in life, the biggest problem is when you think you know what you're doing or what you intend to do. but the people around you don't do things with the pace you want to get things done at. biggest problem is that nothing is within your control. you've done all you can and that's about it.
..disheartened..
in life, the biggest problem is when you think you know what you're doing or what you intend to do. but the people around you don't do things with the pace you want to get things done at. biggest problem is that nothing is within your control. you've done all you can and that's about it.
..disheartened..